How do you activate your will?

When working with young people that need to get back on track because they are drop outs we often say their will is aching. They cannot start on anything because they don’t know what they want to do, they cabbnot plan more than a couple of says ahead, so when I ask what they think they do in three or five years’ time, they just look at me with their empty sight and think I am from another planet. How stupid can you get asking such a question?

i try to tell them they have to set their sight on something and walk in that direction. The Cat in Alice in Wonderland says something like: “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there”. This has some depth that not all juveniles catch. Very funny. Did a cat say that?

Sarcasm aside.

I have come to some sort of conclusion that the will, this wonderful intellectual faculty that we have won’t work if we don’t have a goal. The goal is what activates our will. The will takes us through fire and water, in pursuit of our goal.

Have you ever been madly in love. Thought of what that does to you. You’ll do anything to the one you’re in love with, or to please him or her.

If you can mobilize the same feelings toward a goal, that will be the spark that ignites your will. You’ll become unstoppable.

These 20-year-olds don’t have goals. That’s the problem. That’s why they are at a stand-still. Whatever road they’re taking is unfortunately not the high road.

I am working hard to make them realize this.

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Rough Times are Good Times!

You know something? Transitions can be rough. Or at least they can be perceived as rough. In hindsight at least. When you’re in the middle of it I appreciate that it is hard to think something like “These things are sent to try me and I shall probably emerge as a nobler soul from the experience.” That’s probably what will happen, but it’s hard to take in when you’re in the middle of it. It’s more like why does this happen to me? Why did I take on this encounter that turned out much harder than expected? And so on.

Price Pritchett in his booklet You² also talks about how it feels when you are abut to make a quantum leap, it actually feels quite rough. That’s when it is time to keep going and sometimes just close your eyes and “jump”.

The good things is that we actually learn something from this whether we like it or not, whether we realize it or not. And whether we want it or not. Of course we don’t have to use the acquired knowledge for anything, that’s an other thing. It would be wise to do, though.

So when you know what you had, things are rough around you and you have no idea about the possible outcome that lies ahead, then I realize it’s easy to give in. But don’t. You will emerge as a nobler soul from the experience. You will.

That’s why I ask you to embrace any transition, however rough you may feel it is. It will make you grow into something better and more fulfilling. That’s what life is all about isn’t it?

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It’s Transition Time – again!

So it’s transition time again. This family is pretty familiar with that. It’s nothing serious, but still. So we bought a new house today. Unlike many other countries this is not a lengthy process at all. Perhaps you’re used to a house being put up for sale. Then you have to find it in an ad or something. Find a realtor to represent you. Make an arrangement with the owner to see the house. And so on. Can take a while to sell the house.

Not so in this market. House is put up for “show” for two days, one hour each day. If you want to have a look, you have to come then.
The day after the last showing of the house the bidding starts.

So the last showing was yesterday evening, we put in our first bid at 10 am. 12.15pm we had bought the house. There we at some time during the process 5 bidders, few in the end only two. The other folks gave in and the house is ours.

So we have to move in two and a half months’ time. We have moved before so we’re pretty used to it. Since 2007 when we sold our house, this will be out 7th move. It’s time to settle down for a while.

So this means we have a new house, new neighbors and so on. But we’re only moving 150 yards from where we live now. Isn’t that fantastic. We still have to move all our stuff. We’re still moving to something new. The kids will stay in the same schools, though. Much to their relief.

So now we’re house owners again, not merely leasing a house. Been there before so we’re not completely unfamiliar with the situation. It’s great to be back where we belong.

It’s still a transition.

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The Art of Unloading – Or How to Empty a Backpack.

It is said that God will never put on your shoulders more than you can bear. Every now and then I see and think that even though God does not do that, we do. We put so much stuff on our own shoulders that we cannot stand upright. And probably blame God.

We’re good at loading. We’re pretty bad at unloading. That seems in a way to be man’s fate. We’re probably hunters and collectors. We fill up our backpack with all sorts of “things” and continue long after it’s full. If we’re not unloading any stuff at any time this backpack will burst.

Oh, that’s a good thing you may say. No it’s not, because it is uncontrolled, and you don’t know what might happen. With you and those around you. Your work. Your health. For all practical purposes it is at any time best your backpack has more room for new experiences, excitements and so on. This means you have to unload. You have to let go of certain things all the way through your life. It’s the only way you can move forward. It’s the only way you can grow. Add new knowledge, new experiences, prosper. To move forward in life, you have to let go.

There is no golden rule of what you should let go of, or let go of first and so on. What is burdening you the most? Perhaps that’s a good place to start.

Unloading stuff; that’s a sort of transition. Moving on. Growing. That’s how life should be. Bring along only the experiences and knowledge that’s necessary to enjoy the moment and to thrive into the future.

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Libya’s Long and Winding Transition Road

I’ve just recently been to Israel on vacation. But this is a country and area that is so full of history and conflict that’s it is not possible to be just on vacation without taking in some of the tense energies that always surround you.

I have earlier written about the books of Moses, the Tora as the Jews would say, how it took Moses three days to get the Israelis out of Egypt but it took them 40 years to get Egypt out the Israelis.

We’re experiencing an Arab spring, and Thursday Ghadafi was captured and executed. In that respect it will be interesting to see how the liberators will treat Ghadafi’s supporters. Will they go after them or will it be a Mandela inspired process of reconciliation? I hope for the latter, but we must remember it takes agreement on both sides to go through with that. That’s the first milestone.

The interesting thing is how long will it take before wounds are healed; the dictatorship, the fear, uncertainty and so on. It has been said and it’s probably right, also in the respect of the Israelis 40 years in the desert, that it will take the Russians three generations to get rid of all the scars of communism. These days that’s about 90 years. So for those that are young enough and can live to tell, it will be interesting to follow the process in Libya, as in Egypt and Tunisia and other Arab countries, but also Russia and other ex Soviet countries. In that region we’re almost done with the first generation, two more to go.

I lived in the Republic of Georgia during a short time of the first decade after the fall of the USSR,and quite a few people missed the Soviet times. Hard to understand for one who has grown up in a democracy, but transitions from dictatorship to democracy are tough and the limbo period is long. About three generations. So understandably those going through the transition with no or little hope to experience the new beginning will ask if it is worth it. It is, for future generations. Always remember that.

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