Gentle, gentle, gentle. Easy, easy. He’s nice and gently coming around. Communication. Silence, and more silence. Then suddenly some communication again. A call or a text.
Deep down behind a hard shell to crack. There is talent in there. Beneath the anger, frustration, lack of self confidence, blame game, paranoia, (have I forgotten anything?) What does it require? There is probably no fixed recipe for that but in this case patience and praise. Some sort of dialog, sometimes monolog; about me seeing the talent she does not notice herself.
Sometimes it can be a relief to trust, believe and be a tiny little bit flattered about someone else seeing something in you that you are not able or willing, rather, to detect yourself. If you can manage to do that (trust someone else’s belief in your talents), and start to let go of your past and present feelings, you have started the first little step towards improvement, growth or development.
It is so satisfying as a coach and peer to see these small steps toward an improved quality of life. A lot of people want it, but most of the same people do not dare to embark on that transitional journey.
Keep your fingers crossed she’ll make it all the way round. She deserves it.
